A Healthy Relationship Has a Good Foundation

What is a Relationship?

A relationship can mean many things from friendship, family, work, or sexual but, the one I am referring to is when you are with someone you are dating or even love. The definition of relationship is a particularly close interpersonal relationship. It can be defined by enduring behavioral independence, repeated interactions, emotional attachment, and need fulfillment.

Relationships play a central role in the overall human experience because, we as people have a need to belong and to love which is satisfied by having a relationship. I don’t want to go into what a relationship should be because everybody is different and has different outlooks. But, when you find that one person to be with, you both should be on the same page as to what is important in a relationship.

So my focus is going to be on the foundation of a relationship because, that should be universal for everybody.

I recently asked 10 men two questions. One that I believe is important in a relationship and one I believe is important to some people in a relationship. The first question I asked was :

How important is communication to you in a relationship?

Here are a few responses I got.

  • Communication is the key to any relationship. Without it a relationship fails bottom line.
  • Communication is the most important thing. If there is no communication than there is no relationship.
  • Communication is of utmost importance in any relationship. Without communication there’s no point even getting into the relationship.
  • Communication is vital for any relationship to be healthy and successful.
  • Communication is the foundation for any relationship.

I look at the shell of a relationship like building a house. Its a lot of hard work but easy to erect. So lets start at the bottom.

First you would have your foundation which would be communication. We all agree communication is very important to any relationship. without it your like friends with benefits or room mates. So remember to keep an open line of communication.

Second would be your walls which would have three parts. Honestly, loyalty, and trust. You always need to be honest about anything with your partner. If you can’t be honest about your feelings, needs, or wants than you defiantly can’t trust. If you don’t trust your partner about where they are, what they are doing, or what their feelings are than you don’t need to be in a relationship with them. That in turn falls into loyalty. If you are going to commit yourself to that one person. You should be with just that one person. If you can’t be loyal than you can’t trust, which mean you can’t be honest to your partner or to yourself.

The third thing would be your roof, which would be respect. Everyone should have respect for themselves and for others.

It’s like the old saying goes ” Do onto others what you would want done to you.” If you don’t respect your partner or their opinions, than how do you expect them to respect you or your opinions? It’s just like a house, everything has to go together to fit just right.

The second question I asked was,

How do you feel about PDA (Public Displays Of Affection)?

Now I only asked this question because I came across a guy that said he did it when he was younger but, not so much anymore. so that got me wondering if most guys felt the same way.

The answers I got were different than what I expected. Out of all ten men, five were really psyched about PDA. The other five said it was OK but, they would do it.

Here are a few responses I got.

  • PDA is great! If I am not proud to be with my partner and feeling good showing it than I am with the wrong person. Holding hands, hugging, kissing, and stroking her hair, makes her feel cherished and me feel good as well.
  • PDA is OK. You should be able to express your feelings for whoever you are with, without being looked down on from the public.
  • I think there should be PDA. It looks like your hiding something if you can’t show PDA.
  • PDA is good just not over the top.

Me personally I believe PDA is awesome! It not only should make you feel good because your with someone you want to touch but, also make them feel wanted and loved. I am not talking about making out in pubic but, to simply put your arm around them, hold their hand, or touch the small of the back while escorting them into a room. It makes anyone feel wanted. And everybody could use a little of that.

We live in a world with a lot of dishonesty, cheating, and no respect for the fellow man or woman. Why would you want to bring that into a relationship? Truth is you wouldn’t.

When you find that one person you can’t stop thinking about or being around than just be yourself, have fun, and don’t forget to cherish each other and communicate.

Source by Erin Fletcher

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